Labels and Limits by Davina
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Why do I choose to not define my sexuality? I’ve exposed parts of myself here on Shemuscle, that have never been exposed before. I am speaking to my inner thoughts, wants, and desires. Ultimately, I am also opening myself up for questioning, curiosity, and ridicule.
Since I began writing for Brian, I’ve found the number of emails and commentary I’ve received has nearly doubled and the question everyone seems to be asking with undying frequency is: What is your sexual orientation? It seems everyone wants to know if I’m bisexual, lesbian, or straight.
In writing this, I’m attempting to answer this question, in my own manner. There is no “one word response” to that sort of question, at least not for me, because I do not, nor have I ever, considered sexuality to be something that is definite, or something that can be simply “defined”.
When we are young we are taught the art of labeling. We learn, from a very young age, what a male is, what a female is, that black is black and white is white. We are taught that men like women and vice versa. We are taught that certain wants and desires are acceptable, others are not. It is “normal” for a woman to desire a man, but “not normal” for her to desire a woman. Labeling allows us to see the world in terms of things we can understand, or put a name to. Things we cannot define are things we cannot understand, and typically we shy away from things we don’t understand.
What happens when we cast labeling aside? If we do not see sexuality in terms of “I must only like women” or “I must only like men” and we cease to be so definitive about our experiences, we can accept our wants and desires for what they are. We can give in to the art of exploration and curiosity and be open to new encounters without worrying about how we’ll be judged or labeled. This applies to all areas of the erotic or the sensual. Sexual and erotic experiences are some of the most intimate, moving, and eye opening experiences of self discovery we will have in our lives. To reduce those types of experiences to “gay” “straight” “lesbian” or “bisexual” is to limit the enjoyment and the wonder. If women can experiment with other women without fear of being labeled lesbian or bisexual, we free ourselves to live in the moment and enjoy the experience for all its raw, intimate, and erotic glory.
That’s why I do not label my sexuality. I refuse to. If I am attracted to, or curious about another person, I want to get close to them and be intimate with them without worrying about how I will be labeled. Male or female, I enjoy the creation of chemistry and the give and take of pleasure. Experiencing another person at that kind of intimate level is a phenomenal experience, one that I feel, is above and beyond the simplicity of labels.
Eckhart Tolle writes, in his book “A New Earth”:
“When you don’t cover up the world with words and labels, a sense of the miraculous returns to your life. A depth returns. Things regain their newness, their freshness. And the greatest miracle of all is the experiencing of your essential self, void of any words, thoughts, mental labels, and images. Remember words reduce reality to something the human mind can grasp, which is not very much. Have the courage to seek yourself beyond words. Have the strength to seek others the same.”
I want to experience others without words and labels. I think we all should be mentally and physically open to the realm of possibility when it comes to sexual experiences and sensual moments. To close ourselves off from certain experiences for fear of labeling and judgment, is to deny ourselves of a potentially freeing and beautiful moment, we might otherwise never have the chance to experience.
I hope this answers the emails and the questions. I hope you all understand now, why I refuse to label my sexuality. More so, I hope perhaps you’ll take a look into your own personal life and re-evaluate some of your own labels and judgments. I hope you’ll open yourself up to possibility. After all, exploration and self discovery, should be limitless.
I think Ur absolutely dead on about the detrimental effects labels have on our every experience…it just sucks the very life out of each moment we have. I applaud Ur honesty & thoughtfulness. Please continue writing bc I believe Ur voice has an integrity that comes from a generousity of spirit and a joy of living.
a friend from myspace sending LOVE, You R BeautiFUL & that’s what counts, be all you desire.. Labels R just Labels..
peace.. xoxo
Thank you all for the comments of support and encouragement. In sharing aspects of myself I hope that maybe I’ll connect with facets of you. Thank you so much for reading my blog on allowing me to be to be a part of your experiences with female muscle.
xoxoxo
thank u d!! these are like words spoken from my own heart, couldn’t have said it better myself…love u babe! xoxo
XOXO 2 Davina/Jane & all the Lovely Ladies with Muscle! You inspire me to be a better/stronger Man. Peace & Kinky LabeLESS LOVE 2 ALL.. :)P
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9 good comments? I have to be the balance of Horns vs. Halos. Sexuality maybe fluid. “To conquer others is to have power, to conquer yourself is to know the way”,by ‘Lao Ming’ But tell those who want to know that fantasy is healthy, “And say no more”.
Davina is bisexual! She goes with men and women.
But woman more. So she may just be gay and scared to admit it. That’s why the beat around the bush(no pun intended)LOL answer of not believing in labels. Spoken like a true politician. I think you are in the wrong line of work.